Biting

The boy has some teeth on him….and we are now struggling to get him to stop BITING….he has no desire to do it to other people, just us and the furniture, comforter, stuffed animals, etc.   I know his teeth hurt and that is probably why he is doing it….but, it has to stop!  He’ll be playing with us one second, then bites us the next.  He still thinks it’s funny, even when we firmly say no and then ignore him.  We’ve tried putting him in “time out”….which is pretty much impossible because he won’t stay in one place.  I’ve put him in his crib, which seems to work, because I leave the room and he will cry for a little while, knowing he being left….but at the same time, I don’t want the crib to be a bad thing, you know?? We’ve told him that it hurts us, and that we don’t want to be around him if he bites.  I always tell him that if his teeth are hurting him, he can bite/chew on his teething toys….and I also ask him if he needs “medicine” for his teeth (teething tablets) and he usually tells me he does.  Do you have a toddler that has bitten before?? What has/hasn’t worked for you!?

Advertisements

10 thoughts on “Biting

  1. I have to admit I was a biter at this age (was even kicked out of a preschool) and my mom was old school and bit back to teach me that it hurt. Not sure if I agree but it stopped me from biting. Do you have a play pen or pack-n-play you could put him in instead of his crib so that he associates that with timeout instead of his bed?

    Oh, btw, thanks for the diaper deal! I ordered two shipments and can’t believe I spent $36 on 2 cases of seventh generation! That is cheaper than costco diapers!

  2. ohhhh yes. this is so very familiar.
    esp the laughing about it part.

    timeouts didn’t start to work for us at all, for anything, until jude was about 21-22 months old. it was only then that she started to listen to instructions. now she is a big fan of timeouts when she’s overwrought. she doesn’t move, and they’re the perfect reset button.

    i wouldn’t recommend doing the crib as punishment thing for the very reason you described. i do recommend praising him for all the times he doesn’t bite you–when he chooses to bite something appropriate.

    he’s most likely not biting to get a rise out of you, but when he does get that rise, BONUS! entertainment! so i also recommend trying not to react as if you’ve just been bitten, but to focus more on the immediate redirection.

    within just a few more months, you’re going to be able to have more in depth cause-effect kind of conversations with him, i promise. and when he firmly understands what you’re talking about, time outs etc will be SO much more effective.

    also: this will pass. sooner than later, i’m sure.

  3. GP used to bite, namely out of frustration for something she wanted. we nipped her biting of us in the bud with 1 minute time outs in her room. if she bit us, we immediately picked her up and took her to her room, while saying, we don’t bite. no biting. not biting. put her on the floor of her room and then closed the door.

    cue us counting to 60. we would then open the door, give her a hug and tell her that we loved her, however, there was no biting.

    i think we did this perhaps three times in total. she very quickly got the hint and has stopped. we didn’t really show much emotion with it. no angry tone or sad face, just a calm, we don’t bite. no biting and taking her directly to her room when it happened.

  4. I think the biting period is normal. Every child I know had this. The on earlier the other later. And so we live with our biting monster, which has exactly the same age as Lachlan, and hope, when we say often enough that it hurts, turn us away or cry that it will stop sooner or later. And I know, it will, because it seems to be usual.

  5. yikes! not looking forward to that… x2. I hope you’ll post about your solution or, at least, how long the phase lasts.

  6. We read that so you don’t have to use the cot, get out a porta-cot so that you can use that for time out. That’s our plan for ava for the same reason, didn’t want negative associations with the cot/crib.
    Stacey, meg and ava. X

  7. He might be a bit young, but the books “Teeth Are Not For Biting” by Elizabeth Verdick and “No Biting” by Karen Katz are helpful. You could check them out from the library and see how he responds.

  8. We “had” a biter. We raised our voice at her and said OUCH!! She also giggled but we told her it hurt. What worked for us was paying attention to her cues and when we saw her getting frustrated, we knew it was coming and so stopped her by kissing her and making a big deal out of how sweet she was for wanting a kiss. She honestly just stopped because I think she was getting sick of all the extra kisses it meant : )

  9. Hey!
    Emmy has sensory intergrative disorder and has a major need for input through her mouth. If she gets excited she bites. If she gets mad she wants to bite.

    Her occupational therapist actually got her this toy that is like a vibrating teething ring. She sticks it in her mouth and loves to feel it on her teeth.

    It’s totally bizarre but it works and she hasn’t bitten us in a long time!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s