20 Weeks: Half-Way There

  • K and I spent the weekend in Charlotte, NC and had a blast.  We drove about 4.5- 5 hours to stay with our good friends and hang out on their boat for a few days.  It was SO relaxing to get away from work for a little while.  We spent most of Sunday on the water and I literally felt the stress float away as we sailed across the lake……  It was wonderful! K had so much fun; she is determined to buy a boat by next summer.  I can just picture our little boy chillin’ on the water with us every weekend!!! 
  • We also went to Charlotte Pride as well.  It wasn’t bad…..but nothing I’d rave about.  We did get to meet the girls from “And Sweepy-D Makes Three” briefly while we were there, which was pretty cool.  LKC is due a few days before us and looks fab!
  • Tomorrow is officially 20 weeks!  We’re half-way there!!!! I can’t believe it! Our little boy is growing like crazy (proof is in the belly shots below) and I’m starting to feel more and more movement inside of me.  He’s most active late at night or in the wee hours of the morning, when I’m still groggy in bed.  It’s like he’s tapping me – “Mommy, I’m awake!” Very cute.  I smile every time.  Yesterday he actually kicked a few times during the afternoon and K quickly put her hand on my belly to feel him, but of course he stopped.  I always joke with K that I think he’s laughing at us, playing a game of “feel me if you can!”.  I know she’ll feel him soon; I am really looking forward to that day!
  • We had another midwife appointment this morning that went really well.  Nothing overly important to tell you all about – just the usual stuff – blood pressure is still good….pee looked good, weight gain is good (yikes! i gained 5 lbs in the last month for a total of about 12 lbs gained) and I found out I have O Negative blood….I had no idea what blood type I was before!  This makes me RH Negative apparently, which could means if the baby is positive, I would need a shot….I don’t know much about all this….but the midwife said that if the baby’s blood mixes with my blood it could harm both me and our son, and our future child(ren).  I would also need a shot after our baby boy is born.  I had no clue about all this stuff!!! Wee One’s heartbeat was between 140-150, so everything is good there.  The only concern is my placenta being low….but we hope that won’t be an issue.  Our next ultrasound is at 28 weeks, and we should know by then if we’re out of the clear.  Apparently, it is very rare, but if your placenta is resting on your cervix, you would bleed way too much giving birth vaginally, therefore have to have a c-section.  I am hoping and praying that won’t be the case and the placenta will “come up” between now and then.  At 28 weeks I’ll also be tested for Diabetes and a bunch of other stuff.  At least we’ll be able to have all the bloodwork done during our ultrasound appointment.
  • My belly.  Oh. My. Goodness.  It is getting HUGE people, HUGE.  I tossed and turned last night, trying to get comfortable.  I find myself having to hold it up when I lay on my side.  It’s such a weird feeling getting so big and sleeping is getting awkward, even WITH my body pillow.  My midwife suggested making a “nest” for my tummy, if I need to.  Whatever is going to help me sleep, do it, she said.  I actually went swimming yesterday for the first time since I’ve been pregnant, and it was so ODD!  I am used to swimming stomach down in the water….and I felt like I was carrying a large rock in my belly – the heaviness was hard to get used to.  I found myself out-of-breath when I normally wouldn’t have even been somewhat winded. I know all you uber-preggo girls are laughing at me…… my belly is going to get A LOT bigger soon….I’ve just found it hard to adjust to the growth!!! Here is my 20 week belly shot (and one WITH my top down!)….and a shot to compare it with.  Wow, eh?


Wee One: Photoshoot

How great are you guys!? Thanks, everyone, for all your sweet words of congratulations!!! I’m so glad you all enjoyed the video! I have watched it so many times and still never get over the feeling of seeing him wriggle around inside me!

We are very excited and it’s finally sinking in that we’re having a baby boy!  We bought some boy stuff this weekend to celebrate, even though we truly need NOTHING more in the way of clothes.  We have overdone it in that department…..but, hey, it’s our first kid, so we’re allowed, right?

“Wee One” is posing already! The first shot is his profile….he ALMOST looks like he’s sucking his thumb:

Itty Bitty baby laying on his stomach…..look at his spine!!!!!!!:

It’s a boy!

Our baby boy’s little face! Ha – I call this shot SKELETOR:

Party In My Belly

Our sweet Wee One is full of life – ALREADY!! The much-anticipated ultrasound went really well this morning.  We were told the baby doesn’t have down’s syndrome, spina bifida or a cleft palate.  Huge sigh of relief.  You always worry about those things…. Anyway, the ultrasound tech was very knowledgeable and showed us the 4 chambers of the heart, the brain, 2 little legs and feet with 5 toes on each foot, adorable 5-fingered hands and a tiny body that was bouncing around.  Wee One was having a blast in there – kicking me away!  I’ve included a video below and will post our pictures soon.  At one point, she pushes down on my stomach and you can see the little arm and hand fly up! Pay close attention around 30 seconds and on (it’s only a short 50 sec video) and watch how much movement is going on.  At the beginning of the video, baby is laying on the back, then flips to the side, then (at the very end) flips to the stomach!! It was actually hard to get pictures, as we seemed to be interrupting Wee One’s party.  The video is a bit hard to see, because it’s so far away, but you can definitely see the arm movement….and the wriggling of the belly.  If you REALLY look close, you can see the umbilical cord near the end of the vid. We saw hiccups (cutest thing EVER) too! It was an unbelievably emotional experience and absolutely mind-blowing to see the little person we created so full of life already.  Wee One is measuring 18w6d (4 days ahead of our actual 18w2d today) and is 9 ounces.  The ultrasound tech said everything looked wonderful and healthy…her only concern is that my placenta is low.  She said she firmly believes it will come “up”, but wants us to do another ultrasound at 28 weeks to be sure.  I’m not really worried about it…. I think it will sort itself out.  We weren’t going to have any other ultrasounds, and I’m secretly happy that we’re going back now so I can see the growth of 10 weeks!  I think that’s pretty much it.  We’re on cloud nine, of course!



Oh, I’m sorry, did you want to know the sex? That’s not why you came here is it? No…..I didn’t think so……


Okay friends, I’ll give you all what you REALLY wanted:


IT’S A  . . . . . . . . . . . . . .




Yup.  I kid you not. Believe it or not bloggers, all my dreams were wrong (as were some of your votes! It was something like 21 girl, 11 boy) and we’re having a sweet baby boy.  I gotta admit, I was definitely surprised.  It took the tech maybe 3 seconds to see the little boy parts.   I couldn’t believe it.  She did an “up-close” of his parts and there is NO denying that’s our little guy.  Although I wanted a girl, I’m thrilled we have a healthy (and active) baby boy.  Now we can put away all the girl clothes, and start preparing everything for our little man.  Our little man that we now call by name (when no one’s around to hear!)!  This is all happening so fast, and I’m just IN AWE of the feelings and emotions that have overcome me (crying away in parts of the ultrasound).  We left there with quite a few printed pictures and I’ve been staring at them all day.  I shall post some soon! I’m so in love with him already…….




Ready *Update*

I feel like a kid on Christmas Eve…seriously. I can’t believe I had originally decided I’d wait to find out the sex of our baby…..I’m just so READY to know. Not only will I be SO excited to see how much Wee One has grown (we have only had ONE ultrasound at 7 1/2 weeks) but I know I’ll feel more connected to this little girl or boy growing inside me. I hope she/he is active on Friday!!! I’m going to get a printout picture that I will definitely post, and hopefully a video. If they aren’t able to give me a video, K will videotape some of the ultrasound with our camera…hopefully it will turn out well enough for you guys to see SOMETHING exciting! I’m counting down the remaining days…….4 more sleeps…..

….We had a great, busy weekend too. We finished up pet-sitting on Friday and headed back home. Our beagles were SO happy to be back in their comfort zone. I absolutely LOVE pet-sitting, but this dog was …..difficult…to say the least. We were watching him for a friend, and didn’t really know what we were getting into!!! He is on meds for severe allergies that make him extra thirsty all the time…..therefore making him have to pee constantly…..like…8 or 9 times a night. By the end of the week, we were sleep-deprived and exhausted. Maybe this dog just wanted to prepare us for life with a newborn!!! Ha! Not only that, but he’s a little terror. You turn your head for a second and he is in the trash can, ripping up tissue paper and dropping it around the house. Yikes! It’s like the terrible two’s times twenty!

Saturday we ran some errands and then got to hang out at Notes From Two Moms pad for Sarah’s bday bash; we had a blast at their beautiful home and enjoyed meeting so many cool people! They are good folk, those two!! Sunday flew by with an early brunch with friends from out-of-town (who invited us to Charlotte next weekend for a few days out on their boat….AND gay pride – yay!). We just had time to change into some casual clothes before our “Beagle Cookout” in the early afternoon where we managed to get ourselves covered in dirt and slobber. Yum! Food and friends were great though! Sunday evening I met with a very nice, older lesbian couple who were looking for someone to watch their 3 big dogs for a few days. They were very sweet and we ended up chatting for several hours!!! By Sunday night, we were exhausted…..and somehow we didn’t have time to even pick up milk. We’d been out of it for days!!! Things are a little bit more calm now. We have a couple things going on in the evenings this week, but we have a quiet weekend to look forward to!

After Friday, we’ll know what to expect, a baby boy or girl!!! I can barely stand this wait. It’s very much like the TWW friends……it’s tough! IF my feelings and dreams are right, K and I plan to go through all our baby clothes this weekend, and pack away all the clothes for the baby boy (ahh! or girl!) and put them away for the next baby! We want to wash all the clothes we will be using with d.reft and just get that out of the way. All the cute clothing will be ready-to-wear then….and it’s one less thing we’ll have to do later! Oh, and I signed K and I up for 4 free classes at a local hospital today (thanks Sarah for this info!): Infant CPR, Breastfeeding Basics, Newborn Safety, and Newborn Nuances! We’re taking one in late September, and the other 3 will be in mid-October! Well, I think that’s pretty much it for now. Tomorrow will be 18 weeks! My belly is really starting to “pop”….I will post a new belly shot to my “belly shots” page tomorrow. I haven’t really been feeling the baby much….just random butterfly wings in my tummy. I can’t wait till they become more and more frequent! I am looking forward to so many things with this little one…..I’m so ready.

*UPDATE* My OBGYN’s office called to tell me that my ultrasound had to be re-scheduled from this Friday to THIS THURSDAY!!! Yay!! One less day to wait.  I’ll be 18w2d – hope the gender will be VERY visible!!!!!!!!!

Ogre Feet

The past few days, my feet and ankles have been really swollen.  I didn’t think I’d have to worry about this, if at all, until the 3rd trimester.  So wrong.  The first time we noticed was about 3 weeks ago.  I was walking up the stairs to the condo, and K said, “What is up with your ankles!!?”.  I hadn’t noticed anything until she mentioned it.  My ankles were pretty swollen, but I figured it was just from standing all day at work.  Well, it’s gotten worse over the last week, to where I feel like I have OGRE FEET.  They’re huge and ugly and there’s no definition in my ankles….you can barely see them….they’re sort of like tree trunks.  My feet have begun to ache too.  It feels different then when I’ve just stood for too long.  It got to the point last night where it was almost unbearable for me to stand on them.  I complained to K and she gave me a nice foot rub that was wonderful…it was painful even for her to touch them, but I do think it helped with circulation.  I called the doctor yesterday afternoon and she said to drink tons of fluid, limit salt intake, wear tight shoes (no more flip flips) and try to keep them as elevated as possible.  She said it may be worse because of the heat.  Ugh.  She advised me to just keep an eye on them, and if one ankle/foot gets more swollen then the other, or if I push on my foot and it stays indented, then I need to come in and see her.  I guess this is a pretty common thing for pregnant women to experience.  It just surprised me as I still feel like I’m not very far along!!! Other than what the doctor recommended, do you have any suggestions?? Some people have said support hose, which I SOOO don’t want to do because of how hot it is outside, but I will if that is the best thing.  For right now I’m keeping them elevated at night and trying not to feel self-conscious.


So, I had been hearing lots of people say that pregnant women have very vivid dreams. Well, thus far in my pregnancy, nada. Things changed a few nights ago – for 3 nights in a row I had some very risque, even downright dirty sexual dreams. Usually I don’t remember much about the dreams I have….just bits and pieces. Well, I woke up in the morning remembering every detail. Sexy shower scenes and steamy hot sex sessions with my girl, something I would imagine would be in a lesbian porno…. They seemed very real while I was sleeping…..and the following days my mind kept drifting back to them….I was almost embarrassed, thinking that the folks who passed me could tell I was thinking dirty thoughts. It entertained me for a few days, and even after a real-life romp in bed with my woman, I was still having them. Guess this is the point in the pregnancy when my sex drive is going to peak, I don’t know! So far, I haven’t had a increase or decrease in desire…….but these dreams don’t help!!

While I’m telling you all about dreams, let me tell you about last night’s. First, know that everyone has been asking us whether we feel that it’s a boy or a girl. In my mind, I’ve always referred to the baby as she. I just feel like it’s a girl, but what are my feelings, really? I could be totally wrong. Anyway, K would like a boy, preferably….not that it really matters to her, but deep down – that’s what she’d prefer. So, in my dream last night, I didn’t deliver our baby at home or in the hospital. Oh no. The Wee One got delivered to us via a delivery truck, similar to one like S.chwan’s Fine Foods. Something along those lines. Very odd. I don’t know how the baby got out of me, and into a delivery truck, but of course you don’t question the crazy things in dreams, they just seem to make sense somehow. So, a lady arrives and comes to our door to tell us we have a new baby! K runs out first and looks at our newborn, and I follow a minute or so later. Upon getting to the truck, I see an itty bitty baby, maybe 6 lbs. She is dressed in a frilly pink outfit with polkadots all over it. She has a full head of dark brown hair – just like K’s. Her face is all smooshy, and I think she looks a little bit like a monkey, but I don’t say so. She also has 2 tiny cuts to the left of her right eye, that I just assume were from her nails cutting her face. I ask K, “is it a girl?” (Obviously the pink clothes weren’t enough for me….) and K says very non-chalantly, “No, it’s a boy.” Very matter-of-fact. And then I woke up. I don’t know what it really means, if anything at all. But I found it rather odd. Why was the baby delivered by a truck? Why did K say it was a boy, when it was clearly a girl??? Do I think K will be disappointed if we have a girl?? I’m not going to analyze it, but it was a pretty funny dream. I told her this morning and she just laughed. Last night I remember rubbing my belly and saying something about “her”….referring to the wee one. K corrected me saying “he”, in a joking way. Maybe it stayed in my subconscious.

Last night, K and I went to a new support group. Started by a lesbian who had an un-medicated VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) a year ago, this was just a general support group for pregnant women in Richmond. A good majority of the women had the desire to have a non-medicated birth, some at home, some in the hospital. I feel like I’m a sponge right now – I just want to get all the information and support I can during this time. I guess I feel like it will better prepare me for our birth. There were 17 women, with one husband there too. Most of the women were pregnant, but there were three ladies there that had newborns with them. The babies were so tiny and cute; I had several “holy crap” moments where it hit me again that we were going to have one of those in December! We heard several 2 unmedicated stories (one of which was a car birth!) and one medicated-with-complications story. It was nice to hear both sides and get to ask questions afterwards. The birthing community is very close-knit and everyone I’ve spoken with has been so warm and open to sharing their experience. It’s a very safe, welcoming environment. The gathering of women is so awesome, and I come away from each one of these meetings feeling more excited and empowered about our birth. We have another Homebirth Circle meeting next week and I’m really looking forward to that. BirthMatters Virginia is also presenting a film festival on July 23rd that K and I are looking forward to attending. They are showing “The Business of Being Born”, “My Body, My Baby, My Birth” and “Special Women: How a Labor Assistant Makes Birth Safer, More Satisfying & Less Costly”. This is what the “invite” said (I can’t wait to see these films – TBOBB for a 2nd time):

“If you or someone you know is considering having a baby, these are movies to be seen! We all desire a healthy mother and a healthy baby and we strive to make informed decisions to ensure a positive outcome to the best of our abilities. We need to know what options are available and the pros and cons of those choices before truly informed decisions can be made. Pregnancy and birth affects all of us; therefore, this is not a “women only” event. We strongly encourage men to attend. There is a transformative power of pregnancy, labor, birth and being a parent. Please come and join in the dialogue ~ the conversation is just beginning.”

The long weekend seemed to fly by. I don’t even remember what all went on!! Oh, one fun thing we did was go to Williamsburg to do some shopping at the outlets. Every store seemed to have huge “BLOWOUT” sale signs up, but when we got in the store, not so many sales. When I think of CLEARANCE, I think of something being 50% to 70% off……not something marked down 2 dollars. Maybe it’s just me, but people didn’t seem to be buying that much stuff. We had a nice dinner and K did buy me a bunch of stuff at the maternity store up there. I got two very comfy tees (green & black) a white top, a black & white dressy shirt and a black dress. It felt good to get stuff that was comfortable and cute. I’ll post some pictures soon.

Today is 17 weeks. 10 days till we find out the sex!! (Yes, we’re totally counting down). July 18 will be a good day – the new Batman flick comes out AND we find out the sex. What could be better? Here’s what’s going on with Wee One now:

“Don’t be too shocked but… your baby is EVEN bigger than it was last week, not to mention getting cuter, and smarter every day! As you’ve come to expect, there’s no shortage of growth and development this week: your fantastic little bean stalk has added yet another half inch to their overall height– making them nearly half a foot long! Their little limbs have reached (or are within one week of) their relative proportions, and will continue to grow evenly with the rest of the body after this week. Reactive listening has begun for your baby, even though their ears are not yet structurally complete or fully functional. Meanwhile, different parts of their astonishingly complex brain are developing to process your little one’s hearing and other senses, (you know, sight, smell, taste and touch). Mind boggling factoid of the week: if you’re having going to have a little girl, her ovaries have already produced millions of primordial egg cells, which, within a few weeks, will develop into actual eggs! Phew… just wait till she’s a teenager eh?”

As we’re getting further and further along in the pregnancy and thinking more and more about our home birth, we’re trying to sell our condo and move into a more appropriate place, with more room. We’ve looked at lots of houses……it’s a frustrating process trying to find the “perfect” place. I’ll keep you updated…..I just hope the condo sells in time for us to get another place for the homebirth. K and I really want to start working on the nursery….but we can’t until we know where we’re going to be living! That’s pretty much it for now. The butterfly wings are sporadic, but hopefully will start occurring more and more!

Butterfly Wings

So the Pink or Blue post “poll” results are in. Thanks for all the participation guys (including those who de-lurked!). Team Pink has 11 votes, and Team Blue has 7!!! Go Pink go!!! Okay, I really just joke about this all, as I will be SOOO happy no matter what we have, but I can secretly wish for a little girl right? It DOESN’T mean I’d love my little boy any less. Just saying.

Today is 16 weeks. (Pay no attention to the little baby ticker to the right that apparently thinks I should STAY at 15 weeks 5 days; I’m trying to get it changed, but apparently the site is having technical difficulties….) Anyway, guess what??? This morning, laying in bed I thought I felt something, but shrugged it off. Well….today at work, I was sitting down after just eating a blackberry K.ashi snack bar and felt something that felt like butterfly wings against the inside of my belly. It only lasted a second, and then disappeared. It was such a strange feeling that I shot up straight in my chair and told K. Ahh! Maybe it WAS the Wee One this morning too! Hopefully it will start happening more and more!!! I’ll be paying much better attention now…….

And….for L.Babypants and Plump (because we’re in a race till the end!) and other folk out there, behold the 16 week belly shot (I do think it’s getting bigger…):

P.S. Happy Canada Day to all my fellow Canadians!!! Hope you all had a great time celebrating!!

P.P.S. My excitement is bubbling over for Vee & Jay!!! I could not be happier for you both!!! AND, Joulybean & Sarahbean. Congratulations ladies!!!