Today, K & I called Richmond’s only CNM -Certified Nurse Midwife- that is licensed to do home births. K spoke with her at great lengths about what we’re looking for. If we are going the home birth route (Richmond doesn’t have any birthing centers, unfortunately) I love the idea of a water birth. I would love to give birth in a comfortable, peaceful space without all the harsh lighting and beeps and buzzes of a busy hospital. No IV’s, just a calm and relaxing atmosphere with K, the midwife and myself. But, the midwife can’t administer any pain medications, which I had known, but was ignoring. This was the only thing that had really ever caused me some worry when it came to home births. I couldn’t have an epidural. For some reason I always thought I would get one. I hate pain (who doesn’t though) and imagine that my labour will be long with our first child. I am going to be a mommy, and I just don’t know what to expect…. I think it’s probably perfectly normal to be a little scared of the pain…I just want to do everything right and to the best of my ability, you know? I would love to have a natural, un-medicated birth though. I think, if you are able to do it, it is giving your baby the best start possible. (However, I know that for some women, this isn’t an option.)
Anyway, I felt like the conversation went really well. It exceeded my expectations. I think K and I will know for sure when we meet her though, but for a first phone conversation, I’d give it an A….and K did most of the talking. K said the midwife seemed to be surprised at how much I knew, and was further surprised by my very positive pregnancy test at 10DPO. She seemed pretty cool, and both of us really look forward to meeting her in person soon. She said that she only does necessary testing, which is what we want. She told us that we didn’t need the beta tests, and that we should book an appointment for our first prenatal visit with her associate, who is a dear friend and colleague. Our first visit will be mainly paperwork and blood work. I’m not sure when we’ll hear the heartbeat. I have an appointment for Tuesday, May 6th. I will be about 7 ½ weeks along by that point. That feels like a long time to wait though. We were saying in the car the other day that this is worse than the TWW. I just so badly want to know that wee one is okay; I know most folks can hear the heartbeat around 7-8 weeks – I can’t wait for that. She also informed us that she usually only recommends one ultrasound at 20 weeks, which K and I are happy with. We can request more, she said. Not sure if we will or not. The fewer tests, the better I think. We won’t be doing any genetic testing. The main thing for me is hearing that heartbeat!! After that, I think I can wait until 20 weeks to see the wee one and find out the sex.
As for how I’m feeling. Right now, I’m a happy camper. No nausea (am I jinxing this by typing it?). I have dull lower back pain, and the bloating is still here. My jeans were old and had holes in ‘em, and were a bit snug on my waist thanks to extreme freakish bloating, so K bought me a cute pair of maternity jeans from T@rget. I have to fold the elastic part down for right now, just because they come up too high on my stomach (and just feel odd). Can’t wait till I have a baby bump to fill them out! As for cramping, it has been every day, but nothing I can’t live with! Oh, and last night I was awake at about 11:30pm and craving balsamic vinaigrette salad dressing. I could literally smell it and taste it in my mouth. The odd thing is – I don’t even really like that dressing. I’m a Ranch girl at heart. Let the pregnancy craziness begin!